Financial advisors want to know if you’re gay- Find out why

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By The Network Journal

The insurance salesman must have noticed that Carl Streed Jr. was wearing his engagement ring, because he started referring to Streed’s wife. Streed didn’t say anything at first. But when the guy asked how to spell her name, Streed says, “I just took the pen and wrote: ‘CHAD.'”

More and more professionals who advise on personal matters from lawyers to doctors, from financial advisers to the mattress store—are realizing they need to know whether, when, and how to talk about their clients’ sexual orientation. The alternative is awkwardness, or even a lost customer. (Streed, a 29-year-old doctor who lives in Baltimore, gave the guy another chance.) Cluelessness about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender issues can also result in bad advice.

Here are some tips on how to adjust to the new etiquette, based on conversations with LGBT people and advisers who specialize in LGBT clients.

It isn’t the G-word

Mani Cavalieri doesn’t mind if you know he’s gay. Nor does the 27-year-old New Yorker, a database analyst at a research foundation, like it when people treat his sexual orientation as an impolite topic of conversation. I do want it to be something I can represent, without feeling like I’m imposing an awkward subject on someone else,” he says. He and other LGBT people get especially annoyed when bringing up sexual orientation is equated to talking about your sex life. Cavalieri wants to be as free as his straight co-workers are to chat about their significant others, their dating history, and even how hot that movie star is, when those sorts of conversations are appropriate.

His favorite way to come out is to “sneak it in as a joke,” he says. His review at work of Mad Max: Fury Road was a complaint that for most of the movie, “Tom Hardy’s pretty face is buried under a beard,” and not the sexy kind of a “full-on hobo mop.”

Sometimes, it’s serious

LGBT people can face tricky legal and financial situations that go way beyond what happens in the bedroom. Unmarried gay couples need the right wills and other legal documents. Otherwise, if one passes away, the survivor risks losing his or her home or prized possessions to estate taxes or to estranged family members.

 

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